Tuesday, January 11, 2011

When We Think We Are Failing As Mothers





Oh dear mothers-----we certainly have our days, don't we?

We wake up, we have our grand plans and as soon as we step out of our beds the day seems to spiral out of control.

The children aren't being good, the house needs cleaning and our mood switched from Proverbs 31 to the grumpy, grumbling mother in 10 seconds flat.

Or maybe you have prayed for patience. Yes, you prayed. Maybe that you wouldn't get mad at the children, or that  you would respond gently and that only lasted up until the latest sibling outbreak in your home. Then you asked yourself  "What happened, Lord? Didn't I pray and ask for help in this area?'

Mothers, don't be discouraged. The Lord IS working powerfully in your life. He is allowing you to see  your weakness and in that weakness His power is being perfected. (2 Corinthian 12:9)

I remember as a young mother, when I would fail and just feeling like running away. I believed my failings would influence my children and tarnish them for life----wouldn't they be better off without me?

What a lie! Satan was trying to drive me from my home---the very place I belonged.

Without me, this home would have fallen apart and as a young mom I was naive and gullible in even entertaining these false ideas for even a second. Thankfully, the Lord was with me and strengthened and encouraged my frame. He was my help and my deliverer and focused me to see clearly through the hazy thoughts, pressure from the outside and the lies that threatened to tear down my home.

So if  you are going through these things, dear mothers, know that you are not alone.

Know that you are not the only one who has felt that way--mothers everywhere have gone through this and more.

Know that God is right beside you gently guiding you through the wretched crooked paths and bringing you home.

Trust in Him,and not yourself, and let Him lead the way.

Don't give up--there is too much at stake--generations will be affected for the decisions you make today.

And continue to PERSEVERE because you know that this is His MIGHTY WORK He has laid out for you

and that He will be glorified through it as you faithfully lay your life down at His feet.

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Please know that He cares for you and loves you:



"He tends his flock like a shepherd: 
He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; 
he gently leads those that have young."

-Isaiah 40:11























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28 comments:

Far Above Rubies said...

Amen! Your thoughts on running away is relevant for so many of us who believe Satan's lies on leaving our home b/c we feel like failures.

However, God's grace is sufficient - and His power envelops those who Trust in Him.

Thank you!!!

silver said...

I also thought the lie that my children would be better off without me. Thank you so much for sharing this. It means a lot to know that I'm not alone in this.

Susie said...

I remember those days in my early homeschooling. The Devil would try to convince me that I was failing as a teacher, wife and mother. It is all lies. Thank you for that encouraging note for mamas.

Anna said...

Thank you so much for sharing this. I often have feelings of inadequacy in regards to my home and child too. I see my failures and downfalls all to often. Thank you for encouraging me today to persevere. I needed to hear this.

Anonymous said...

Thank you, thank you for this very-much-needed reminder!

Jeni_Ream said...

Thank you for a wonderful lesson!Each day is a battle of the flesh, and sadly we do lose some. I am thankful for a forgiving Heavenly Father who is always there with open arms to comfort me when I fall!

Anonymous said...

I needed this more than you can know. This very day has been this way. I cried and cried just a few hours ago. I prayed to God! I just felt like all I have tried to do was falling apart. I even truly tried to let God direct my words, and steps in our school days and homemaking, and parenting. But the last few days the enemy has worked so hard against me.

In my prayer time I just felt the gentle words come to mind, "perservere" so I choose to do so.

Thanks for sharing.

Unknown said...

This is so very timely for me! Thank you so much!!

Jacqueline said...

Thank you so much, I am not a mother but a single woman of the Lord who mentors kids and I needed this today, I feel as if I am so far from the Lord and in a desert and this was so reassuring and convicting of the fact that these feelings are simply lies of Satan,

also on another note I want to thank you for the link on you blog to the modest clothing shop, I have such a hard time finding modest skirts and clothing as I live in a very rural place, do you know of other sites that cater to petite women? I am only a size zero or 16 in girls on bottom because I am so short, if you know of any other links it would be so appreciated, thank you so much and may you be blessed as you are a blessing! In Jesus, Jackie

JB said...

Thank you for that scripture. I needed it today. Two words: Potty Training.

Toyin O. said...

Amen, thanks fopr sharing.

Anonymous said...

Just what I needed to hear! Thank you so much for your words!

Denise said...

Thanks for the great insight this evening. I enjoy reading your blog.

Christine said...

This is so encouraging! How'd you know I prayed for patience today? ;)

Yes, we are doing a mighty work and I always need that reminder!

Blessed Homemaking said...

This was so encouraging, Mrs. Fuentes. Thank you so much! I have felt this way too in the past (and sometimes still do). But more often than not, now, I feel everything will fall apart without me and one of my biggest fears is not being there for my children...
Thankfully I am still here :)

Anonymous said...

Thank you soooo much for this!! I really really needed it today. The Lord spoke to me through you.
~Ashley

Anonymous said...

oops I think I accidentally sent you two comments. I thought the first one didn't work so I re-typed it. Sorry about that.

Amy Whitley said...

Wow! It seems that lie is commonly used--that our children would be better off without us. I have felt so discouraged and inadequate as a young mother. It is good to know that others are feeling the same way as I often sense more experienced parents shaking thier heads at me (although I know they probably aren't even noticing me as they are busy in the midst of thier own struggles). How sad that our children are at stake of us believing a lie that so many easily do. May God's grace deliver us and our children for his name's sake!

Stephanie said...

Thank you. This is just what I needed to read this morning :)

June Fuentes @ A Wise Woman Builds Her Home said...

Dear Ordinary Me,

I hope you are feeling better now--many years from now you will look back and see how far the Lord has brought you and how good He is!
I wish I could just reach out to all my readers who need it and give you all a great big hug!


Jacqueline,

You might want to try The Modest Mom---www.themodestmom.com. She makes custom made skirts as well!

Mrs. Q---I am thankful you are still there too! :)

Many blessings...

Anonymous said...

Dear Lord Jesus, Please bless Mrs. Fuentes and give her the desires of her heart. She has been a blessing to countless women through her godly wisdom and example and we are all thankful to have her as a friend. Cover her marriage and children always so that the enemy would never touch them and they would reach millions for your Glory alone, In the Name of our Lord Jesus Christ, Amen.

Rouva P. said...

Thank you tremendously for this post. It is exactly what I needed today. Yesterday was such a hard day. I felt like a total failure as a mother. And I too had just prayed for patience, gentleness and quiet spirit. Your words give me hope that I'n not alone and that I just need to trust God and persevere. Thank you.

Mrs. P.

June Fuentes @ A Wise Woman Builds Her Home said...

Dear Anonymous,

You have blessed me tremendously with your prayer. May it be as you have prayed!

Many blessings...

Beloved's Redheaded Bride said...

ah! Thank you! A great reminder.

Tereza Crump said...

thank you for the encouragement. :)

I saw your son's saying about wanting to become a pastor as a 7 y.o. and it reminded me of my son's statement a few months ago.

We were sitting in church (they stay in church with us) and he whispered to me: "When I grow up I want to be the preacher." I asked him why and he responded "Because it's too boring to just be sitting on the pew. I would rather be preaching up on the pulpit." he was 5 y.o.

:)

Mommy Mac said...

Thank you for the encouragement. It was just what I needed today.

Kim said...

This is exactly what I needed today even though you wrote this blog post last month! I have just spent time in God's Word seeking guidance for training my children in righteousness and was relieved to find God's comfort! I often tell myself that my son would be better off in public school (since I've chosen to homeschool him) rather than at home with a short-tempered mother who he probably views as a hypocrite. But thanks be to God, who is the ONE who saves and changes hearts. He will work in my children's lives at the right time, in spite of me and my failings. I pray I will persevere and claim Galatians 6:1 for our lives! Thank you for your encouragement! :)

Anonymous said...

Oh, dear sister (or mother). I know that you have a lot of responses on here and I'm not sure if you'll get to read mines. Just know that this post is what I needed to read. I needed to read this tonight. Thanks for posting this.

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