Friday, June 26, 2015

Weekend Highlights: Losing Joy in Motherhood, Examining Idols, Marriages Falling Apart & More!




We are enjoying our summer break around here in the  Fuentes household. It seems like it takes a good week or two every year to recover from our homeschool year. It is nice to fill our schedule with things other than school and breath in the relaxing breeze of summer.

Here are a couple of encouraging posts you will want to check out this weekend:

I Forgot How to Be the Happy Mom - "The other day a friend of mine told me to have fun with my kids. I said in reply – I don’t know if I know how to do that anymore.  Just typing that brings tears to my eyes."

Hello, I Am an Idol - "Hello. I am an idol. Don’t be afraid, it’s just me. I notice you’re turned off by my name: “Idol.” It’s okay. I get that a lot. Allow me to rename myself. I’m your family. Your bank account. Your sex life. The people who accept you. Your career. Your self-image."

10 Ways That Satan Love to See Marriages Fall Apart "Marriage can be extremely messy. As sinners we can do dumb things in marriage - we hurt one another; we make false assumptions and then miscommunicate; we manipulate of say mean things to our spouse; we think less about serving and more about being served."

When Satan Steals Your Motherhood - "No, it's just not the mistakes. It's not the forgetfulness, It is what happens on the inside that no one else sees. And he knows just how to get to you."


During the summer I like to catch up on my reading. Last night I was browsing through this book:






It is A Woman's Wisdom: How the Book of Proverbs Speaks to Everything and you can find it on Amazon. 


Don't forget that if you are into photography as a hobby (or want to learn) or have an online business you might want to know that The Ultimate Digital Photography Bundle is ending soon!  There are three levels---Beginner, Intermediate, and Business. The tiers are cumulative so if you buy the Intermediate you will also get the Beginner and if you get the Business you will get all three!



You can read the list of what is included in the bundles at my post on Tuesday or visit the main website HERE!



Here is a quick peek of my peonies that grow outside my bedroom window. I just love peonies, they are so large and beautiful. I only wish they lasted all spring and summer long! They were given to me by mother-in-love when we first moved into our house.



We have been having so much rain--here is a picture of the front of our home after a storm. It am grateful we are on a hill and didn't get any rain in our home at all. These are pictures from my phone and I am still mastering the art of a steady hand and focusing.



And we have been enjoying our garden---this past week we ate salad strictly from it, and it was so nice! Here is a picture of little Isabella when we planted a few things a few weeks ago. We like to start'em young around here! Isn't she so cute? Do you see her adorable little toes?



We are growing tomatoes, green peppers, sweet potatoes, cabbage, zucchini, cucumber, onions, sweet peas, lettuce, broccoli, and raspberries. I have some nasturtium seeds I still have to get in yet. I really wanted to grow kale but didn't find it anywhere this year.



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Have a blessed weekend building up your family!






"Aaah, summer - that long anticipated stretch of lazy, lingering days, free of responsibility and rife with possibility. It's a time to hunt for insects, master handstands, practice swimming strokes, conquer trees, explore nooks and crannies, and make new friends."

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Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Wise Woman Linkup!


A Wise Woman Builds Her Home is a place to be encouraged in your high and noble calling of role of wife and mother and daughter to the King and we want to encourage each and every single reader out there to build up strong Christian homes to the glory of God.

We would love for you to link up with us---share your posts on  building up your home, homemaking, character, hospitality, femininity, family, tea, recipes, parenting, marriage, homeschooling, and whatever else you'd like to share that would encourage our community. Feel free to also share more than one post!

Don't forget to check out The Ultimate Digital Photography Bundle that was just released yesterday. There are three levels---Beginner, Intermediate, and Business. The tiers are cumulative so if you buy the Intermediate you will also get the Beginner and if you get the Business you will get all three!



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Are you into photography?

Do you want to create memories of your children, family life, or maybe even business?

I can totally relate--I have a daughter that is into photography. She graduates this year and has already turned her photography passion into a business (her first paid photo shoot was just two weeks ago)! It is exciting to see this natural talent blossom before out eyes and  that we all get to benefit from for years to come -- it is even more wonderful to know that it is now able to be a blessing to others!




In the beginning she spent much of her time practicing and learning through websites and books. But I had always wished that there was something that was all already pulled together for her---like a one stop place to get everything she needed because I had no idea where to begin.  And now there is!






It’s called The Ultimate Digital Photography Bundle (Beginner’s Edition), and it contains a curated collection of ebooks and video training guides to help you become a better photographer.

All the resources have been provided by professional, world-renowned photographers who are experts in teaching others – even complete beginners. You won’t need to switch up to a more expensive camera to make full use of the bundle (even if you just use your iPhone for photographs), and you don’t need to neglect your family for weeks upon weeks of training! You can learn everything in little chunks – whenever you have a spare moment.

Click here to see the full range of ebooks and training courses included in The Ultimate Photography Bundle (Beginner’s Edition).

There’s even better news! Everything in the bundle has a combined total value of $555, but for this week only, The Ultimate Bundles Team is selling the entire bundle for just $37 – a discount of more than 90%! What’s more, they’re also throwing in a FREE copy of FX Photo Studio Pro software from MacPhun (which provides stunning filters and photography effects) worth $29.99!

No more searching high and low for information. No more blurriness, no bad angles. Just perfect, happy memories!

This time there are three types of bundles to choose from Beginner, Intermediate and Business.

Take a peek of what is included:


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Monday, June 22, 2015

4 Need-to-Read Warnings about Busyness



"My life is so busy--I wake up and hit the floor running. There are so many things to do that I always feel like my head is spinning and I feel completely burnt out and overwhelmed. I don't have energy at the end of the day for my husband, children, and home. I have literally stopped reading my Bible and I feel like my spiritual life has taken a hit. How did my life come to this and why do I feel so out of control?"


Have you ever felt like this mom?

It is easy to let the busyness and burdens take over our lives. If we are not careful our lives can get off balance and we can ignore the very things that are the most important things if we don't guard our time.


Take a moment to read what these men have to say about the dangers of busyness:


"So don’t ignore the physical danger of busyness. Just remember the most serious threats are spiritual. When we are crazy busy, we put our souls at risk. The challenge is not merely to make a few bad habits go away. The challenge is not to let our spiritual lives slip away."  - Kevin DeYounh


"You wake up one day to realize that you are busier than you've ever been, but no deeper in the things of God than you were years ago."   - Anonymous

"The weight of so many responsibilities and distractions - even the worthwhile ones - has a crushing effect on a person's relationship with Christ. It ruins our taste for spiritual things. It suppresses our exuberance for spiritual service. It suffocates our passion for pursuing Christ and the intimate relationship He offers. It all grinds away at our soul. Eventually, following Jesus starts to lose its luster. The blessings and joys of walking with Him are crowded out by myriad tiny details of life."   - JM


"And as men’s diversions increase from the world, so do their entanglements from Satan. When they have more to do in the world than they can well manage, they shall have more to do from Satan than they can well withstand."   - John Owen


What great reminders to protect our time diligently--something that is increasingly hard to do in this age! The last quote reminds me of our children and how we need to also teach them to be use time wisely. It is easy for children who have too much time on their hands use that time unwisely and allowing themselves to go down a wrong path. How important it is to teach them to watch over this important aspect of their lives!




Ladies, for us personally though, we always need to check what out priorities are in order:

-God
-husband
-children
-home
-extras

When our priorities in place everything else falls together. I realize that at times there are exceptions that we need to consider that might not be the norm, in these cases we truly need to be prayerful. We also need to examine our schedules and decide what should stay and what should go. It is wise to sacrifice the "good things" in our order to say "yes" to the best things in our lives. Something is always sacrificed when we take on too much and, sadly, we often realize it when it is too late!

So be wise, ladies, in guarding your time---your most precious commodity. Because once time is spent you cannot get it back.  It is a gift from God meant to bless you, not overwhelm you. Eliminate what is unnecessary and ask God to give you wisdom on how to order your days. He will guide your steps, bring peace,  and help restore the balance that is needed in your life.





















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Friday, June 19, 2015

Weekend Highlights: New Design, Calming Your Anxious Heart, Teaching Children to be Peacemakers, Not Finishing in Homeschool & More



Today we have plenty of encouraging things to share on our Wise Woman Weekend Highlights!




In case you haven't noticed we have a new look around here!

We have replaced our old header with a new one and I really like the new feel. I hope you do too. We have always had a "woman in white" theme around here for the 10 years and glad to still keep it.  Here is our new button below:



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And let us know what you think of our new look in the comments!


Here are some posts of interest around the web that you might want to check out while you are relaxing this weekend:


4 Reasons To Be Still and Calm Your Anxious Heart - "But truthfully I think as adults we complain more than our children and it is ugly.  The complainer tells God that what his Hand has given is not good enough. Who are we to accuse God of something like that? We act as though our wisdom and knowledge is so spectacular that God Himself would do well if He listened to us. This is not boldness on our part, but the highest form of foolishness."

Four Ways to Teach Young Children to be Peacemakers -It’s tempting to focus on behavior but not the heart. It’s possible to raise children who don’t cause us trouble but don’t know how to work through conflicts biblically. It’s possible to raise children who know how to avoid conflict but don’t understand their own hearts. It’s possible to raise children who get along with others but don’t think they need Jesus."

It's Okay if You Don't Finish It All -"As the end of the school year approaches, I just wanted to encourage you that it’s okay if you don’t finish it all! It’s easy to stress about too much book left at the end of the year, especially when the weather is too pretty not to be outside!"


I am browsing through several different books on my phone when I get time at night when the baby is nursing and here is one of them that I am currently enjoying:




The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands is a pretty interesting read that I think you will definitely be blessed by if you get a chance to read it!


Our most popular post this past week was:







I also just recently created a new Pinterest board for decorating Baby Nursery Decorating Ideas. Since I don't have the space in our home to do it right now I thought I would make a board with ideas for the future. There are SO MANY cute ideas be sure to stop by and visit!








Just a heads up--the Lilla Rose sale is almost over and ends at midnight tonight so you still have a little time:






And I would like to finish with  a quote that I am pondering on this weekend:

"So don’t ignore the physical danger of busyness. Just remember the most serious threats are spiritual. When we are crazy busy, we put our souls at risk. The challenge is not merely to make a few bad habits go away. The challenge is not to let our spiritual lives slip away". - Kevin DeYoung






Have a blessed weekend!

















Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Wise Woman Linkup!


A Wise Woman Builds Her Home is a place to be encouraged in your high and noble calling of role of wife and mother and daughter to the King and we want to encourage each and every single reader out there to build up strong Christian homes to the glory of God.

We would love for you to link up with us---share your posts on  building up your home, homemaking, character, hospitality, femininity, family, tea, recipes, parenting, marriage, homeschooling, and whatever else you'd like to share that would encourage our community. Feel free to also share more than one post!

And just a heads up--Lilla Rose is having an up to 30% sale for the next three days and they even have pretty new bobby pins too! Here's a peek:








If you buy three items you can get one free coupon if you are a new customer. Just place your order for three and then email me at lrwisewomanbuilds@gmail.com and we will send it out to you! (Limit one per household and website must be ours--it will say June Fuentes on it). 

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Monday, June 15, 2015

5 Ways to Not Grow Bitter Towards Your Husband



Recently on our Facebook fanpage we shared a question from a reader:



"I am having trouble forgiving my husband for something and I am starting to feel bitter towards him. What do you think would help me not to go down that path?"



 I know it is a hard thing sometimes to live with your husband and having times when you are not getting along or not seeing eye to eye about something. I understand how it can is also difficult if your husband has broken his trust with you or has hurt your feelings in some way or another. The pain can be deep and the forgiving can be hard.

So we would like to share a few ways to deal with your feelings towards your husband so that you do not become bitter against him and instead do what is right and respond in a godly way.

Let's begin:


5 Ways to Not Grow Bitter Towards Your Husband



1. Realize He is a Sinner.  Sometimes we can easily forget that our husbands are sinners saved by grace just like ourselves. We need to remember that he is in the same need of the grace of God just as we are. It is a good reminder to think about how Jesus died on the cross not just for you, but for him too and that he is a fallen man who will make many mistakes.

2. Forgive--Even When it is Hard.  Forgiveness can be a very hard thing for some especially if it is something hard to forgive. God said to forgive 70 times 7  times and more. When we don't forgive we can open the door for bitterness to creep into our lives. This bitterness can hurt everyone around us including ourselves. You might have to do it a thousand times a day but it is that same forgiveness sets you free.

3. Take Captive Ungodly Thoughts - You might be tempted many times to think ungodly thoughts about your husband. Be sure to take those thoughts captive and replace them with the word of God. For example if you are thinking "I just can't stand him sometimes, he gets on my last nerves." Then meditate on verses on love like this one:

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."  

 Do not allow room for the enemy into your marriage!



4. Pray for Him - I know this can be hard, especially if he has really hurt you. But all sinners need prayer and your husband is no exception. Lift him up to our Savior who is able to make all men into a new creation and change his heart when it is hard. With God all things are possible.

5. Pray for Yourself - It is okay to pray for yourself, we all need prayer at some time or another. Pray that you would always seek God's face in the situation, that you would bring him good and not harm all the days of your life, and that you would be the wise woman who builds up her house and not the foolish woman who tears her house down.


If you would like to read what several of our readers shared in response to this questions,you can read their responses HERE.


I recommend The Excellent Wife and How to Build a Strong Christian Home if you are looking for reading material to encourage you along this path.


What would you add to help in not growing bitter? Share it in the comments below!


















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