How to Use Words to Build Up Your Home

Today we are in the sixth chapter of the book The Most Important Place on Earth. There is still time to join us and you can get the book HERE.

Last week we covered The Power of Words Part I and today we are covering Part 2 of the same topic.

We already discussed how powerfully words are in a person's life and how it has "the power of life and death", so how we always need to filter our words through Scripture and God's truth and love.

One important point that I wanted to touch on was that we need to be clear in how we talk and being careful not to label our children.

How many times have you witnessed a parent going off on a child and calling him names or berating him? It is hurtful when this is done and children need to be instructed towards the right behavior instead.

For example, you find your child has a messy room. AGAIN. You are tempted to say:

"You are a mess."

But instead of labeling that child so that he carries that into all areas of his life and starts to believe that about himself, a proper correction would be:

"Your room looks messy, go clean it up."

Or say that your child is talking is using an inappropriately loud tone of voice. You are tempted to say:

"You're always screaming."

But instead a better way to remind him would be to say calmly:

"That's not the way to speak."

This goes a long way to helping a child to put on the good behavior and training them correctly.

Or:

"You're so sloppy."

Should be changed to:

"That's not an appropriate outfit. Please change your clothes."

This is helpful to a child because instead of labeling him as a slob you are proactively pointing him to the right and desired behavior.

This doesn't just go for your children, it also goes for how you interact with your spouse too!

Now that we covered the right way to help correct unwanted behavior,  I want to also share the 5 encouraging things that should be in every Christian home. He refers to them as "Spiritual Vitamins". We all need encouragement since no one is perfect. Most of them are self-explanatory:

1. Saying "I love you."

2. Saying "I need your love."

Since this one is not as obvious, let me explain what he means: he is talking about being able to share how you need love from a person without just being quiet and harboring resentment from them. It shows up a lot of ways in our lives so I believe this can be helpful so long as we have the right attitude and ultimately the contentment knowing that God can only fill the empty spaces in our lives that even people sometimes cannot fill.

3. Saying "I'm sorry, I was wrong. Will you forgive me?"

4.  Saying "May I help?"

5. Saying "Thank you."


These words can go a long way to building up your home to His glory!

What ways other ways do you use words to build up your home?



A Prayer:

Dear God, please help us to remember how powerful words are and how they powerfully impact relationships around us with those that we love the most. Help us to be prayerful about the words that we use and purposeful to build others up instead of tearing them down. Let our words always point others closer to you and forgive us for the times that we have failed miserably at this. Please continue to show us how we can love others better through our choice of words to bring you glory. We pray this in Jesus' name. Amen. 




If you are joining us for the first time, we are going through this book for the next few weeks and would love to have you join us! We will cover a chapter a week and in case you missed it be sure to watch the video and get the A-to Z  Bible Verse Printable to do with your children (we'll be doing it too). The book is still on sale so it is a great time to get it!