Monday, December 10, 2007

A Letter to a Mean Mommy

I received this is my inbox early this morning from Homeschooling Magazine Today:

A Letter: To Whom It May Concern
by Kara Murphy

Dear Mean Mommy,

I am writing, once again, to protest your visit to our house yesterday. I would have thought that my last litany of complaints would have given you pause before you returned, but no. You seem to come and go at will. Well, I have had enough.

First, you never give me any warning that you are coming. If I knew you were coming, I would be able to prepare for you as I do all my other guests. Why must you always arrive when the house is in such disrepair? In general, we do a fair job of keeping things picked up, but without fail, when the house is at its messiest, you show up. Not only that, but you time your arrivals when I feel my worst. Your last visit was after a sleepless night with our newborn. Before that, it was during a stressful time when the bills were late. No one should feel free to visit at tax time, especially when I have put off important record-keeping until the last minute. I suppose you would not think twice of arriving at our door immediately after we have just had back-to-back company. These are not the times to make unannounced appearances at our house!

Even if we were aware of when you were coming, I would still not appreciate your attitude. Must you whisper those words to me all day long? You can’t do this. You are failing. Another woman would do a better job than you. What are you doing to your children? It isn’t enough that you pick on me, but must you also be so grumpy toward my children? All day long, you nag and complain about them. Do this. Do that. Hurry up. Get back to your work. You are a broken record and you need to be replaced! Don’t you realize that children are not finished products, yet? They are adults-in-training, but they’re not there yet. And must you be so impatient with them? Sometimes, you are like a steamroller, plowing through the house. I would hate to get in your way! You are running us all over.

But the worst of it is your appearance…you look so much like me, my children may not realize the difference between us. They might actually think that you are me! I have had to apologize repeatedly for your troublesome ways.

This is it. Your reign of terror must stop. Please leave and never return.

And should you be tempted to come back, just remember that I am onto your tricks. Your wiles will not fool me any longer. I am going to fight to keep you away. And I know the best way to do that, too.

God’s word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against Him. —Psalm 119:11

First, I have determined in everything, to give thanks seeing that this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning me. (1 Thessalonians 5:18) I will rejoice in the Lord always (Philippians 4:4) for I am learning, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me. (Philippians 4:11, 13) When those doubts begin to creep in I will be confident of this very thing, that He which hath begun a good work in me will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ. (Philippians 1:6)

If you could just stop blustering and ordering everyone around long enough you might see an eternal perspective. You would realize that there is so much more to life in Christ than the day-in-and-day-out ups and downs. Step back for a moment from the immediate stressors. Why, there isn’t a hair that falls from my head that the Father is unaware of. He cares for birds and flowers in the field. How much more does He care for me and my family? (Matthew 6:25ff) Not only that, but He is working every circumstance in my life for my good and for the good of my children who love Him. (Romans 8:28)
Since I know that I must be sober, to love my husband, to love my children (Titus 2:4), I will be gentle among my little flock, even as a nursing mother cherishes her children: So being affectionately desirous of them, I will be willing to have imparted unto them, not the gospel of God only, but also my own soul, because they are dear unto me…even when I must labor night and day. (1 Thessalonians 2:7-9a) And most of all I will remember that charity—an antiquated term for our word love—suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity—or love—never faileth. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

If I have to, I will get really radical. When you show up, I intend to meet you at the door intent on bodily harm. For I see who you really are. You are the old (wo)man that Scripture speaks of so clearly. But I know this, that my old woman is crucified with Christ, that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth I should not serve sin. (Romans 6:6) I will likewise reckon myself to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So I will let not sin therefore reign in my mortal body, that I should obey it in the lusts thereof. Neither yield my members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield myself unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and my members as instruments of righteousness unto God. (Romans 6:11-13) Because I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20)

Prepared to do battle,
A Loving Mama


Mrs. H said...

I know this woman. She has been here, too, and (strangely enough) looks convincingly like ME! I am going to employ your stated tactics to evict her from my home, next time she shows up.
Putting on the whole armor of God,
Mrs. H

Gina said...

What a convicting and yet challenging article that speaks to me today. Like Mrs. H said, this woman tries to visit my home. Rather than opening the door and allwoing her to have free reign in my home and our lives, I will also put on the Word expressed in this to fight the battle and turn her out!

Blessings upon you and yours this Christmas!

Mrs. W

Hadias said...


I received this article earlier in the week and am determined to keep this women out of my house.

When I first began this battle I sat my oldest children down and told them about her. I tought them to be on the lookout for her. I told them that they needed to assist in guarding our home against her.

Long ago I realized that there is war that rages withtin me. It is a war against good and evil, joy and depression, peace and chaos. I have chosen God as my ally, and in doing so He gives me the strength each day to thwart the efforts of the mean mother. But she is persistant and crafty. I can never let my guard down. I know now that her goal is to destroy my children and my husband.

She has come to provoke my children to anger and chase my husband to a roof top with her wicked words. But each day I run to the Lord and surrender to him so that he can kill the mean mother that sometime tries to destroy me.

Jane said...

Thanks for sharing. What a wonderful reminder to Walk in the Spirit. Ah,what a huge task we have in raising our little ones for Him.


MamaJ said...

Wow, I needed to read this today! I think I could have written the letter myself. Thanks for posting this!

Tereza Crump aka MyTreasuredCreations said...

She showed up this morning when my oldest child did not behave as she wished. I quickly told her to leave and I directed the children to some other play. We read books together and laughed so much that my oldest child said "Mom you are laughing! We made you smile!" Yes, Mean Mommy had definitely left the house. Praise the Lord!

Oh, Lord, give me the grace to everyday keep this Mean woman out of our house. Amen!

kericallihan said...

It breaks my heart when Mean Mommy visits. I have even cried and said, "This is not the mother I want to be,".

Thanks so much for this post and I will keep a lookout for her today because we are doing a big overhaul in our house, purging and cleaning that is.

:) So happy to find this read today! You're blog is a blessing to our family!

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