Wednesday, August 15, 2007

A Lack of Submission

We can never learn enough about submission. The more we know about respecting our husbands and submitting the better we will be at bringing glory to God. Here is a list I stumbled upon:

Specific Ways Wives Are Not Submissive

1. She does things that are annoying or vexing to her husband.
Proverbs 21:19

(Note: a woman who is vexing is "irritating, annoying, puzzling, baffling, bothersome and will debate at length.")

2. She does not discipline the children as she should (even after her husband asks her to).
Proverbs 29:15

3. She is more loyal to others than to her husband.
Proverbs 31:11

4. She argues or pouts or gives him the cold shoulder when she does not get her own way.
Proverbs 29:15

5. She does not stay within the limits of their budget.
Proverbs 19:14

She corrects, interrupts, talks for her husband and is too outspoken when others are around.
Proverbs 27:15,16

7. She manipulates him to get her own way. She may manipulate by deceit, tears, begging, nagging, complaining, anger or intimidation.
Luke 10:40

8. She makes important decisions without consulting him.
1 Corinthians 11:3

(Note: Occasionally, a husband will instruct his wife that in certain areas she is to make the decisions. In those cases, when authority is delegated to her she then has freedom to choose. Otherwise, he should be consulted in all matters (that are important to him) and she should submit to his headship.)

9. She directly defies his wishes.
1 Samuel 15:23

10. She worries about the decisions he makes and takes matters into her own hands.
Phillipians 4:7,8

11. She does not pay attention to what he says.
James 1:19

Submission is the way that all Christians should respond to God and the way the wife should respond to her husband. She can respond with tenderness, gentleness, and gracious obedience or she can respond with harshness and irritation. We can begin today to be a gentle, godly, submissive wife to our husbands. It is the heart of God for us.

(---list by Martha Peace)

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  1. Thank you for sharing this with us. Being gentle and submissive is something girls should work on, from a young age. I know I want to have this resolved in my heart by the time I get married.

  2. Hi, I just wanted to thank you so much for this beautiful blog that you've written. It has blessed my heart and soul on more than one occasion! Thank you for your encouragement.


  3. Oooh. Good list! Kind of spells it out what it means.

  4. WoW... I found this site through Mrs. U's. I have to applaud you for discussing this difficult matter in today's times.
    I agree 100% with everything listed and wish that more women stoof firm on these issues. THank you.
    P.S. I was also convicted on a few things.

  5. Thanks for sharing! Really points things out that sometimes we over look.

  6. This is such a precious list - I am so glad that the Bible verses are provided for each thought. Thank you for sharing.

  7. Wow that is so much to think about. I am unfortunately guilty of some of those and it's work trying to stop. I think it's important that we be submissive to bring harmony to our homes.

    God Bless,


  8. I love this list... I think I'm gonna to link this post over at my blog to share with others. Sometimes we mean so well and think we are right but in truth we are still not being submissive like we should. It was a good awakening!

  9. Hello. I was abolutely shocked to read your blog and the comments, considering that we are living in the XXIst century. I thought I was actually reading something out of a Victorian novel!!! I am a Christian , but I think this submissiveness to husbands is absolute nonsense! Husbands are human beings just like their wives and I see no reasons why wives should be submitted to them. We are equals in the eyes of God. If my husband is wrong, why should I accept it? Women have suffered immensely for thousands of years because of the supposed and utterly wrong notion of men' s superiority. Those of us who are privileged to live in a society where women's rights are recognized should be grateful to God for it.I know that in the eyes of God men and women are equal. A wife and a husband must be equal partners in a marriage; sometimes the wife can be wrong, sometimes the husband, but neither should be submissive, this is ridiculous and it

  10. Dear Anonymous,

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It can be hard at times to grasp what God's best for us is. The things that He commands for us in the Bible is not intended on hurting us but to help us and lead us to His best.

    We do enjoy rights today as women-- clearly that is not the issue here. The issue is God's Word which is plain and simple---a calling to holiness. If you remember in Scripture it states that His ways are not our ways. Our hearts are wicked and deceitful only His ways are right and pure.

    Hope this helps...

  11. What if a woman tries to do all these things but the problem is not so much that she isn't trying but that her husband refuses to accept his responsibilities and do his part such as allowing children to be disciplined or refusing to discipline them, the husband makes decisions with children behind the wife's back, etc.? How then are we to continue to build our homes when we face such an hard task when it seems all those around are striving to tear it down? I'm not saying the wife is perfect and the husband imperfect...please don't read that. I'm asking an honest question as to how to proceed in a situation such as this.

  12. Dear NomadsDarlin,

    If the wife is doing these things she can rest in knowing that she is in direct obedience to the Lord. Circumstances will never be perfect but we are still called to obey the Lord to our best abilities.

    We continue to build up our homes and keep them strong, especially in the face of adversity because Satan would certainly like nothing better than to have both parents disobeying God in regards to their duties in the home.

    Hope this helps...

  13. I really needed this right now! Thank you.

    ~Mrs. M


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