A long time ago a little girl grew up in a home far away. This home was a pretty home and kept quite clean. On the outside the home was well manicured and flowers grew and adorned the little home. No one passing by would ever think there could be anything going on wrong inside that home. No one knew that the parents in that home argued all the time and cursed at eachother. Who would have known that they even physically abused eachother except for the little girl. The little girl watched quietly from the corner, trying to be quiet, trying not to stir up any more trouble. All the while, the little girl was learning. Learning what anger was, and learning what it was to lack self control.
"Do not make friends witha hot-tempered man, do no associate with one easily angered, or you may learn his ways and get yourself ensnared." Proverbs 22:24-5
As the girl got older she would notice that sometimes she felt very angry. She wasn't able to communicate it well so she turned to alcohol to absorb those angry feelings. Her life spun out of control and she wasn't quite sure were to turn. Later she married and would find herself angry sometimes at her husband and then later--- her children. Soon she saw anger reigning in the home. There was yelling, tension, internalizing and strained relationships. She knew this was not the life she wanted to live.
Anger can destroy. It destroys lives, homes, people....think of it of a tornado that comes and demolishes everything in its sight. What are some ways we communicate anger? I believe we communicate in three different ways---through body language, tone of voice and words.
Anger is reflected by rolling our eyes, crossing our arms, shaking our finger, an angry glare. Anger in our voices is reflected in raising of the voice, yelling, but not always. Sometimes anger can be found even in a whispered tone or by clamming up. Talking quickly sometimes is an indicator of anger so when you feel your words rushing together---beware! Our words can be destructive if given in to anger as we know from scripture that 'the tongue has the power of life and death' Proverbs 18:21.
What happened to the little girl? She grew up angry indeed but later learned about Christ and gave her life to Him. She learned about the sin of her anger and repented and with the help of God she slowly learned to control her anger and to have self control. She knew she did not want to continue the cycle of anger in her home or for future generations and God richly blessed her efforts. It didn't happen overnight but God was faithful to begin the work of patience in her life. He was patient in instructing her as she learned about having self control over herself. She also learned to forgive her parents who are divorced today.
God can change your life if you deal with anger. Anger is a deadly poison that corrupts entire generations. If you deal with anger, you are not alone, the culture that we live in promotes anger as a way of life teaching it through movies, tv shows, etc. Turn against anger today----surrender yourself to God and ask Him for help in dealing with your angry ways. Learn when you are starting to become angry and train yourself to have self control (1 Timothy 4:7b). Anger is a heart issue---find out what is making you angry. Is it sin? Is it selfishness? Is it pride? Is it not getting your way?
Don't waste any time! Start today by making changes in your life! And remember, if you've been living in anger for your entire life you most likely will not be able to change overnight. Be patient and know that God is faithful in the changes He is making in your life! He loves you and has not forsaken you! And know that He will finish the good work in you as He continues to make you His new and beautiful creation.
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!" 2 Corinthians 5:17