Monday, June 3, 2013

5 Easy Ways to Build Up Your Home

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We have written many thoughts over the years on how to be a wise woman and also how not to be a foolish woman. Today we would like to share 5 easy ways to build up your home this week:

1. Speak Positively to Husband and about Him

Your husband is who God providentially brought into your life to be the leader of your home. In society today, it is easy to forget that truth, take the reigns, and completely take over. This is not the Lord's plans for our families . We need to be women who glorify God by how we  speak to and about our husbands. We do not need to point out every fault, weakness, or lack of vision to him or to others. Scripture teaches us that love always hopes and always protects. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth." Let us speak hope, love, patience, and Scripture into their lives at all times and give grace as we have had it extended to us.

 2. Speak Positively about your Children

The Scriptures teach that children are a reward and a heritage from the Lord (Psalm127:3). This is God given truth that Christian women would be wise to embrace .  All around the world we see a hate for children, for life, and for the things of God. Let this not be so in the church or found among His own people. Let the world see that we love children and that we have a welcoming heart to raise and disciple them.

 3. Pray for your Family

 Do you get so caught up with the busyness of the day that you forget to pray for the most important and most beloved people in  your life? We all can relate to dropping the ball but we need to quickly get back on track and cover them with prayer (James 5:16) . What I have found most helpful is to have a specific time each day to do this. Whether its early before everyone is up or while you are taking shower--perhaps you might even just try to pray all day for them whenever you can snatch a little pocket of time. Every small prayer lifted up to God is heard.

4. Take Sinful Thoughts Captive

When you are tempted to think wrong thoughts don't dwell there.  It is so easy to get caught up with wrong thinking--everything from anger, covetousness, jealousy, and bitterness can get a hold of our lives if we are not careful. As daughters of the King we need to stand vigilant and discern what wrong thinking is (especially before we entertain it or allow it to come out of our mouths) before we allow it to control us. We need to discern, repent, and replace bad thinking with Scripture. 2 Cor 10:5

5. Keep your Eyes on the Lord

Trials, challenges, and hardships will come, there is no doubt about that.  This life we live is not meant to be comfortable or easy. But will we be shaken when that happens or will be steadfast and trust in the Lord? Keep your eyes on Him, much like Peter who walked on water-- but once he took his focus off the Lord he began to sink. We need to be steadfast, immovable, with faith that can weather the storm.

If you need more encouragement in this area, I recommend our ebook How to Build a Strong Christian Home written just for you!

Encouraged here?


Anonymous said...

Thankyou for posting this. I was thinking of leaving our marriage as we have had a very very rough time lately, and he has said some terrible things..........................but now. I will do my best to forgive.

Anonymous said...

My husband did leave our home. There were other problems, but I struggled with #1...speaking positively about and to my husband...

Anonymous said...

I'm grateful to have found my good thing.

Anonymous said...

I desperately needed this reminder today. How I long for transformation by my Maker into being a wise and godly wife, mother and friend. Thanks for the reminders.

Anonymous said...

In this post #2 says that children are a reward and heritage from the Lord, my husband and I fully agree. This may be slightly off topic for this post but not sure where to ask. I am curious as to how families have decided they have enough children and to use forms of birth control whether it be for her or him to not have any more. We are a large family with 7 wonderful children we LOVE, but we have come to the point where we were going to make it so we would not have any more but feel that may not be our decision to make. Everyone has their own story and I was just wondering from other women, how the choice was made in your family? Thanks for sharing and all of the wonderful posts!

Anonymous said...

I struggle with speaking positively to & about my husband as well. We've been married for almost 9 yrs. Sometimes I feel as if I made a mistake marrying him & am now stuck in a marriage where we are both miserable. Due to the children & my Christian beliefs, I wouldn't divorce him but am hopeful & prayerful that somehow God can bring love & friendship back to our relationship. We only have 2 children, almost 4 & just turned 1. I'd love to have 2 more but he can't handle sharing me with the kids as it is. And tells me all the time that he recognizes his selfishness & that he just wasn't ready for kids (too late now). I'm 36 so I don't know how much longer he wanted to wait. :( Makes me sad that he feels this way & that our marriage is in such a state of disconnect. It's not at all what I envisioned & longed for. Prayers are welcome & very much needed.

Anonymous said...

I know of a situation where the wife is a loving, caring, chirstian woman and her husband is also a christian. The problem is the husband is very degrading to his wife, both in public and at home. She likes to wear long jean skirts and dress nice, but modest. He complains she looks like she is wearing a feed sack and can't she dress attractive and show off her curves. I know he has told her she is the reason his life has never been happy and he blaims her for everything that goes wrong. How is she suppose to be able to say uplifting words to him, when he treats her so badly?

Anonymous said...

I want to ask the same thing as these other women. What do you do when your husband is mean, degrading, and the only thing that you do well in his eyes is sex? I'm tired and drained. Tired of being abused like this. When he degrades and yells at me should I be quiet? My response is to defend myself. Especially in front of my kids, I dont want them to think it is ok for people to treat them any kind of way.

June Fuentes @ A Wise Woman Builds Her Home said...

Dear Anonymous,

I highly suggest Christian counseling for you both. Are you part of a church?

Anonymous said...

I would like to suggest a Weekend to Remember conference by Family Life. You might think it's not worth it or its to expensive. Believe me God has used this ministry to save my marriage many years ago. Praying for you all

Unknown said...

I am wondering how are you doing now in your marriage. I am praying for you..


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