"I struggle so much with anger, I am not sure what to do and I don't want it to affect my relationship with my children or my husband. I feel like I don't know what to do anymore and I know that I need help but not sure how to stop."
Mama, is this you?
Have you been struggling with your temper for so long you can't remember when you didn't?
And are you afraid that you will never change?
The truth is that no of us have it together. There are no superstar moms here,...we all have our good days and our bad. You are not alone when it comes to being an imperfect mother who struggles with sin.
And yet we know the Bible verses about anger:
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. -Ephesians 4:26-7
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. -James 1:19-20
A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back. - Proverbs 29:11
For the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. -James 1:20
Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense. -Proverbs 19:11
Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools. -Ecclesiastes 7:9
We need to remember that we are a NEW creation in Christ and that we have forgiveness, grace and mercy that comes from the great love of our Savior. Because of Him we CAN change.
How wonderful is that?
And we need to keep God's truths in front of us:
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. - 2 Corinthians 5:17
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. - Galations 2:20
“Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert." - Isaiah 43:18-9
If you need more help on this topic, we highly recommend Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion by Gary Chapman.
Anger is a cruel master. If you struggle even a little with anger, you know how it feels to get mad too easily. To lash out at someone you love. To hold onto frustration. You might even notice others seem uneasy around you.
You know anger is hurting your life, but you don’t know how to fix it.
There is hope. When you understand why you get angry and what to do about it, you can change the course of your life for the better. In Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion, counselor Gary Chapman shares surprising insights about anger, its effect on relationships, and how to overcome it. His advice and real-life examples will help you:
- Understand yourself better
- Overcome shame, denial, and bitterness
- Discern good anger from bad anger
- Manage anger and conflict constructively
- Make positive life changes
- Let go of your grudges and resentment
- Help others (like your children) deal with anger
Whether your anger is quiet or explosive, if it’s clouding your judgment and hurting your relationships, it needs to go. Learn to handle anger in healthy ways, starting today. Gary Chapman is wise and empathetic, and he'll help you turn over a new leaf.
YOU CAN FIND THIS BOOK HERE.
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