Thursday, March 21, 2013

Teaching Sons to be Men of Honor

Last week the men gathered around at our church and together with their sons studied and discussed six points of honorable men.
I cannot tell you how appreciative I am to have a church where the men are committed to exhorting eachother to godly manhood and are also passionate about passing that onto their sons.
It is invaluable.
Sons learn by example, they watch their fathers and the men around them to find their definition of what masculinity is. If they see Christian men serving the Lord, loving their wives, viewing children as blessings, and working hard, then they will also learn these desirable traits. 
It is also the same on the other hand---if boys have role models that are the opposite, men that oppose the Lord, ignore or abuse their wives, despise children and are lazy then they might be more inclined to pick up their wayward ways as well.
Mothers, our sons are not perfect and definitely need all the help they can get. We need to be petitioning the Lord for these young boys, crying out for their salvation daily, and praying for a hedge of protection around them when Satan comes calling.
Now here are the six points that were mentioned at the meeting:
 Men of Honor....

1. Tell the truth
2. Fulfill their duties
3. Do not demand respect--they earn it.
4. They can be trusted
5. They consider others above themselves
6. They honor those in authority
 
This would make a great study or discussion with your own sons. Print it out and talk about:
men of the Bible
historical figures
preachers of old
missionaries
soldiers
war veterans
characters of nobility in movies and books, etc. 
 
They all also looked over George Washington's Rules of Civility that you can find HERE. We had some good fun reading through them at our dinner table the other night!
 
When the going gets tough don't give up on your sons, dear mamas, but lovingly get on your knees for them instead.
 
Valuable Resources:
Warrior Prayers: Praying for Boys in the Area They Need It Most
Preparing Sons 
Future Men
Rebuilding a Culture of Virtuous Boyhood
Chilvarous Boyhood Collection
  
 (Six points by Herb Devine)
 


 
 
 
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13 comments:

Jennifer said...

Thank you for this post! I love the resources! Visiting from www.aheartforthehome.com Blessings to you!

Becky Clark said...

My oldest son is writing George Washington's rules, one per week. My other two boys will be doing the same in a few years. Thanks for all the other ideas as well.

Amy said...

What a fantastic idea! I wish more churches had something like this to help support what so many families are teaching at home. I live not far from George Washington's boyhood home, and his Rules of Civility are still respected by many I know in this area.

Elizabeth Day said...

Yes, it is wonderful that your church is so supportive of men and their role in the home. This role is constantly being challeneged in today's media, and it is reassuring that churches are re-inforcing God's plan for His Godly men.

Bambi said...

Loved this post, June. Thank you. Godly men are a vanishing breed. Praise God for His remnant! It's encouraging to hear there are churches who are actively discipling the next generation and building the Church. Great resources too, my friend! I pray others are inspired and your words reach far.

kimberly in idaho said...

Thank you so much for such wonderful ideas and the link. We had gone over a few of the Rules of Cilility earlier this year. I just printed out the entire list so we can discuss each one.

Mrs. June Fuentes said...

Yes, we love our church! The women even encourage the younger girls and teenagers in biblical womanhood as well. So refreshing, the Lord is good. :)

Mrs. June Fuentes said...

How interesting to know, thanks Amy!

Mrs. June Fuentes said...

Becky,

I had thought of doing that as well for our copywork time and will definitely plan it soon.

Mrs. June Fuentes said...

Bambi, you are such a sweetheart, thanks for the kind words. So glad I found your blog too--wonderful encouragement there!

Mrs. June Fuentes said...

Your welcome!

Erin said...

I follow your blog regularly and love your posts. I just wanted to note something about one of the points on the list -- they don't demand respect - they earn it. While this should be true and they should be loving husbands/men like the bible calls them to,even if they don't earn the respect it doesn't meant that a Godly wife is not called to give it to them (Ephesians 5:33). Just felt like that could be misconstrued and that some wives/women might read that to mean that 'if my husband doesn't earn my respect, then I shouldn't give it to him."
"His love, regardless of her respect. Her respect, regardless of his love." (Love & Respect - Emerson Eggerich) Thank you so much for all your Godly posts that motivate me to love Jesus more and be a better role model in my family!! Erin.

Shan Walker said...

Oh My Goodness, this post is so "on the mark." We focus so much on the ladies and this post is so needed to be heard by the masses. Our fellas have such an important part of God's grand plans. I pray this over my son daily.
I have read the George Washington book you referenced and it's wonderfully interesting.
Thanks for your awesome posts!
Blessings,
Shan
The How to Guru