"I am giving up. I cannot go on any longer. Things cannot continue to go on like this. I can't take anymore. It is just better for us to be apart."
My heart was torn apart as I firmly replied:
"Do not give up. You have continue to fight. For your marriage and your children. Satan wants to steal, kill and destroy your marriage. You are the only one in your home who is holding the walls up because of God. Deep down inside you know this is what God wants you to do. He doesn't want you to leave. He hates divorce."
"I don't know. I just don't know anymore."
"No, you do know. You have to get focused and keep your eyes on God. You are in the midst of a storm right now and you must hold on to the Rock. That is what will keep you standing."
"I don't know. I can't."
"If you give up, just know that there is still someone fighting for your marriage. It's God. And I will be praying for you when you can't pray anymore. You are like a runner in a race--when they get close to the finish line they are weary, they feel they can't make it. Then someone runs in next to them and starts to yell 'You can do it! Don't give up! Your almost there! Don't stop now!' You cannot give up. There is total devastation when divorce occurs, not peace. That is a lie. God can make things change in a marriage right when we think there is no more hope."
Dear friends, if any one of my readers are going through something similar--this post is for you. Do not give up on yourself, your husband or your marriage. God can take the worst of marriages and redeem them and make them the most brilliant work in His tapestry.
You must stand and fight with all that it takes because so much is at stake. Your choices today will impact generations tomorrow. To believe the world's lies that things will be better on your own is a mistake. Don't buy into the lie. I have seem God do miracles in marriages because He has done that in my own life and it is all to his glory.
I will be quick to add that many marriages going through distress need wise and godly counseling--and just as importantly it takes God, time, patience, steadfastness, courage, humility, support, and faith. It takes knowing the word of God and willing to apply it even when the other party is not.
So stand firm, dear one, God has not forsaken you, He is with you every step of the way. For the scriptures declare:
"He is close to the broken-hearted and he binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3