Tearing Down Our Homes

When I titled this blog-"A wise woman builds her home, but the foolish woman tears it down with her own hands." -Proverbs 14:1---I knew I had a great responsibility to share what the Lord has shown me through the years as a mother and wife. I want to stay true to the second part of this verse and share some very important advice with all you ladies and daughters out there.

One of the greatest factors I have seen in a woman tearing down here home and from my own personal experience as well, is simply not taking every thought captive. We allow sinful thinking to get the better of us and take over, and once the sinful thoughts are planted and sown it becomes fully manifested into a destructive monster that will quickly demolish our families and ourselves if we are not careful.

We must filter everything through the Word of God. We must purposefully and diligently rebuke every thought is not compatible with His Word. Ladies, this means not entertaining even the most fleeting of thoughts that might be out of line. We must understand that this is a battle we are fighting for our families. Satan wants to steal, kill and destroy and He wants your family. We must be on guard with something so important as our thought life. He know that if he can destroy the heart of the home, the rest will come crashing down.

I believe since we are such emotional creatures that we must be most diligent in this arena. Depression, mood swings, confusion and even death lie at our doorstep ready to devour us if we are not careful to obey God's word on this matter. Yes, I said death, physically it has been proven that what we think can kill us and spiritually because it can 'kill' our vibrant walk with the Lord.

Taking thoughts captive is not easy, just as a soldier might take an enemy hostage--there is conflict involved, I believe the soul warring with the mind--the Word of God vs. man's sinfulness. We must actively chase after wrong thinking, take it captive and be sure that it is not allowed freedom to destroy.

From the very beginning when that seed is small, the small lie whispers in our minds, we must rebuke it. But not just that, ladies, we must combat it with Scripture. Here are some example:

Sinful thought: I have too much on my plate, I can't handle all the pressure.

Biblical thought: With God all things are possible. (Matt 19:26)I can do all things through Him who strengthens me. (Isa 41:10) What He wants me to get done today, will get done, even if it's not what was on my list.

Sinful thought: Nobody helps me around here. I do all the work while everyone lays around doing nothing.

Biblical thought: The Lord is my helper. I must rely on Him for my strengths. Love is patient, Love is Kind.(i Cor 13:4) Help me be kind to those who might not be helping and show the light of Christ. Jesus came first to serve and not be served--help me to serve in my home like He did to the world. (Eph 6:7)

Sinful thought: I could have handled this situation much better than my husband did. He really messed things up. He always makes poor decisions.

Biblical thought: Love is not proud, it is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. (I Cor 13:4,5,7) God wants me to be patient with my husband as he leads, even when he makes a wrong decision. Instead of blaming or being angry, I will use this time to pray for him instead. I understand that He is responsible to God for his leading, just as I am responsible for my response and my actions.

So, see ladies, this is crucial---we are tearing down our homes if we do not capture and replace sinful thoughts. We must know the Word, the double edged sword, to be able to combat the lies of this world and Satan. Jesus always used the Word, as it always shines light on darkness and brings things into a proper perspective. Without this sort of diligent 'weeding out', we can become highly susceptible to depression and growing a root of bitterness in our lives. This will ultimately result in the demise of ourselves and our precious families. We will be the portrait of the foolish woman in Proverb 14:1.

Choose today, dear moms and daughters, to take every thought captive in building up your homes---and remember---that your family is counting on you.


"But my eyes are fixed on you, O Sovereign Lord; in you I take refuge--do not give me over to death." Psalms 141:8