Monday, June 25, 2007

Provoking Children to Anger



Here are 25 ways parents provoke their children to anger:

1. Lack of marital harmony.

2. Establish and maintaining a child-centered home.

3. Modeling sinful anger.

4. Habitually disciplining while angry.

5. Scolding.

6. Being inconsistent with discipline.

7. Having double standards.

8. Being legalistic.

9. Not admitting your'e wrong and not asking for forgiveness.

10. Constantly finding fault.

11. Parents Reversing God-given roles (ex:wives leading homes).

12. Not listening to your child's opinion or taking his or her 'side of the story' seriously.

13. Comparing them to others

14. Not making time 'just to talk'

15. Not praising or encouraging your child.

16. Failing to keep your promises.

17. Chastening in front of others.

18. Not allowing enough freedom.

19. Allowing too much freedom.

20. Mocking your child.

21. Abusing them physically.

22. Ridiculing or name calling.

23. Unrealistic expectations

24. Practicing Favoritism

25. Child training with worldly methodologies inconsistent with God's Word.

Whew---that is quite a list and surely not exhaustive. Please do not be discouraged by this list for we all are imperfect parents at some time or another which is why Christ died for us. But instead, use it as a starting point to begin to implement godly changes into your home. Remember, God is pleased with us as we try to change our lives and build fruit into it. He will give us strength, wisdom and mercy through it all and praise God that He is not done doing His mighty work in us yet!

4 comments:

  1. I am new to your blog and I am already encouraged and blessed by your comments. I find myself in a situation where I am the sole breadwinner for my family. My son has special needs and many years ago - my career was more promising..so the decision was made for my husband to stay home. Now, we are in reverse-roles. We are in our 40's and with this terrible economy; I'm not sure how we would changes this situation. Do you think there are any situations where woman can work and the man can still be head of the household? If not, what do you do to change directions. The financial impact would be dramatic.

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  2. Hello Blessed Mom,

    'Do you think there are any situations where woman can work and the man can still be head of the household?'

    Great question! The answer is simple:

    He is ALWAYS the head of the household regardless of the work situation.

    If you are desiring to stay home, I would suggest that you and your husband begin praying and asking God to open doors and make a way for you to do so. He has answered this prayer for many others as well. It may take time, patience, exploring all options, trusting in God, getting used to a new schedule and a new way of life but definitely worth all the sacrifice. I will be praying for you and your husband to have wisdom. (James 1:5)

    Hope that helps and thanks for visiting!

    Many blessings...

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  3. Hello! I just read your parenting series, and was lead to this post on a click-thru from there - you mention a discorded marriage as one of the things that can cause problems with the children. I have what is, although not a unique situation, a difficult one. My husband is not a Christian (he believes that Jesus is the savior, but hasn't confessed or professed his life for Him) not to mention he drinks sometimes heavily. We were separated for about 6 months apart, now we are separated under the same roof. I don't know a better way to put it than marital discord. He is finally treating me with respect (at least sometimes) but I am sure the kids wonder what is going on. The oldest is 6, I am not sure I could even explain it to her. I could use some encouragement and advice! If you like, you could email m e at shelliesarahsmom at yahoo dot com, or you can post here - whichever suits. Thanks so much for such a wonderful resource as this blog!
    Shellie

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  4. Dear One Christian Mom,

    One of the hardest things to do is give advice on my blog because I do not know you personally or know the full gamut of the situation at hand. However I do have a few thoughts I'd like to share.

    1 Peter 3 talks about how a wife can win over an unsaved husband by her actions and life. I have seen it happen time and time again even with husbands who drink. So be encouraged! There is hope!

    If he is being abusive or verbally or physically, or if you are needing further counsel,perhaps you can get advice from your pastor whom you can share more information with.

    If not, I encourage you to pray and pray hard. It will not be an easy time in your marriage and do your best to keep teaching the children about God and His Word.

    If you need to share more, let me know and we can talk through email.

    Hope that helps.

    Many blessings...

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