Last week as my daughters and I were doing some spring shopping and we ran into all kinds of this:
(yes, these are actually shorts, maximum about 5-6 in. long top to bottom)
Honestly now, $30 dollars for a tiny piece of fabric? I could buy a bedsheet for less and end up with more fabric! Some underwear on the racks nearby were actually bigger than this!
And this made me giggle:
I must be old, because in the old days parents threw these away! As a matter of fact, when my boys get a hole in their jeans I throw them out. Apparently I am not "hip" because this is a hot seller these days and costs about $40. I know every generation has their own style and trends, but these just made me laugh. I also found some new jeans at a store that had cuts in them that went straight up and down in the front about 2 feet long and sewed back up. I joked with my girls that most parents could just do that for free with a pair of scissors and some thread without paying top dollar...
I was also especially saddened to walk by a popular tween store to find that in the back they were selling tiny underwear like thongs with writing on it that were very inapproriate. To girls. To your little daughters who are about nine and ten years old.
Where are the mothers?
And the fathers?
It makes me sad to know our daughters are being targeted, but the reality is we need to teach them that they do not have to be at the mercy of passing fads and designers who just want to make a buck and use them to do so. We need to teach our daughters to know who they are in Christ, to protect their bodies, to respect themselves, and to be an example of Christ in even how they dress.
This topic is important to me because I wish I had dressed more modestly growing up. I wish I had the guidance in this area, but learned too late. My goal now is to teach my daughters and my grand daughters not to make the same mistakes.
But I am glad that the maxi dresses and skirts are in style now. You can pretty much find them at any store and it is easy to make them modest with an undershirt, etc. It is also good to teach your daughters a lesson on how easily people are swayed by trends and advertising. Styles and fashions change--but God's word doesn't.
Sometimes I am even able to find things more easily at a thrift store than a regular store. I like it there because there are less options and you can get in and out pretty quickly, avoiding the vulgar music that can be found in so many stores. Sometimes I wonder which is worst, the music or the clothes!
I also know of daughters who sew their own clothes. They can make an immodest shirt modest and beautiful and they can lengthen a too short skirt to make it the right size for them. What a blessing it is to have the skills and time to do this. Mothers, it is wise to try to teach your daughters how to sew. I know of women who throw perfectly good things away that could have been mended if they only knew how. If you don't know how, why not take a class with your daughter so you both could learn! It is a very practical skill to have.
When it comes to clothing, I also try to tell my girls to keep it feminine and modest and try to stay away from legalism. I know it is not easy for moms because today they are up against so much, but stand strong and keep showing them the right way. They will thank you for it later. Our daughters are still trying to find their way in style and dress, and us mothers need to be there to guide them. We need to teach what true femininity and beauty is and we need to help protect them until they know how to protect themselves from others who'd like to exploit them.
Prayer: Dear Lord, please help me to guide my daughter(s). The world would like to use and abuse them, but you have put me here in their care. Help me to gently guide them to become godly women on the inside and the outside as we continuously point them to you. Please give us wisdom and discernment in the area of clothing and beauty and as we role model to them what it should look like. Thank you for your word which points the way. In Christ's name--Amen.
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