Saturday, March 5, 2011

Using Praise to Build Up Your Home

Today I would like to share with you some wisdom gleaned from here.

At the tea, Mrs. Duggar was asked if she had any advice to give to parents, the advice she gave was:

"Be sure to praise your children and praise them alot because whoever praises them will win their hearts."

And when asked;
"What do you do with the lazy child?"

Her answer again was to praise them, of course she meant in honesty when they were doing good things (not to be confused with flattery which might puff up pride in a child).

This is valuable wisdom since the flesh is prone to do the opposite. I see a remarkable change in my children when I praise them for the things that they have done right. It is so easy to overlook the ten good things they did in the day and see only the multitude of mistakes and criticize. Children are children and are still learning and we as parents need to be patient and practice long suffering with them.. Grace and mercy needs to be factored in abundantly--we cannot run our home like a drill sergeant spewing forth commands and be merciless to the weak. Our children are still learning when and how to obey and we cannot expect perfection. 

Think about ourselves----how many times in a day do you sin against God? Even in small ways sin is sin and therefore: disobedience. God is graceful and patient towards us--we must apply this to our children as well. 

The Bible reminds us that:

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21

When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise. Proverbs 10:19

Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise bring healing. Proverbs 12:18

He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver. Proverbs 25:11

So today, mothers, I challenge you to put into place-
The Praise Project!
I have heard it  said that for every negative thing you say to a person it takes ten positive things to make up the difference. Vow from this day on to purposefully praise your children and to hold your tongue when you are tempted to lash out, yell or complain.  Give it a whirl and see how it transforms your home. Praise empowers souls to holy heights. It arms them with confidence and can point them towards honorable nobleness, while the opposite--tearing them down, utterly incapacitates.

If you are prone to criticizing and grumbling towards your children make a promise to change today
--it is not too late. 



mominaction said...

What a great and encouraging post. A wonderful reminder when our days get too busy! Some of my favorite verses, which we too easily forget when things
are busy and our houses are "lived in". The simple things that keep our families and houses a true haven and home.

Claire said...

As someone who teaches, I know all too well the power of praise. Wise words.


Don and Shelly said...

June, thank you for this post. It is a great reminder to us all of how words can be used to hurt or or heal. Positive motivation works wonders while only negative motivation only sets the teeth on edge. Blessings!

Artisan Home said...

praise truly does build up everyone in the home! thank you!

SpringMeadowsMama said...

I so need this! Thank you for sharing this!!

Shannon said...

Thank you! I REALLY needed to be reminded of this. It's something I need to pray about. Especially in the gloomy winter months when cabin fever sets in. I love watching the Duggar Family on TV, and seeing how positive they are with their children. What a blessing and testimony they are to the world!

Nicole Auld said...

Great encouragement! :) Very well said! I am new at your blog---I have started checking it out for a few days now and I have to say it is amazing. :)

Pura Bella Naturals said...

I must share that this is the Lord speaking today, I came here this morning to see if there was a new post. This is something I need to surrender to the Lord in regards to my husband. I love to chat and love being socila. I also express when I am sadby talking and even if I am not harsh (which many times I seem to always say you this or that ) Even if I am sharing how I feel about someone or somthing this is troublesome in my marriage. Maybe becuase I haven't learned to refrain from this. Ladies if you feel led to do so will you pray with me about this. I have become very bitter from things in my relationship and hurt, but I stil desire and long to be my husband hel meet and to bless him with all that I am. I desire a Holy marriage that reflects Christ and His Bride.

Far Above Rubies said...

June, another excellent article to make one think.

Thank you, friend. I appreciate your thoughts and always look forward to coming here.

Many blessings,


Steph. said...

Amen. We need to build each other up, especially our precious children!

Emmy said...

This was great! I was trying to find the citation of the verse that this post was about and found this blog! One of my favorite musical pieces, too! I enjoyed your style and tone; it is peaceful. God does such neat things sometimes!

Rambling Heather said...

What a wonderfully wise challenge, thank you for this!

Hannah Avery said...

Thanks for the wonderful thoughts!


Robin said...

Thank you so much for the reminder! I need to remember this with my children AND my husband. I'm so glad I read it this morning, because I am very tired today, and this will help me keep my cool!

missy said...

such true words. When we praise our children you can see the spark in their eyes but when we tear them down you can see them withdraw. It takes much praise to out do the negative words that have been said. This was a great topic and highly needed for many I'm sure.

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